(The 3 Mistakes You’re Making Right Now)
You know something’s wrong.
Maybe your wife doesn’t want sex anymore. Or maybe she agrees to it once a month…if you’re lucky…but you can feel her mentally checking out while you’re inside her.
She’s planning tomorrow’s grocery list while you’re grunting in her ear.
And deep down, you know the truth: she’s not having orgasms with you.
Not real ones. Not the kind that leave her breathless, satisfied, and wanting more.
I know that stings. But here’s what you need to hear: it’s not your fault that nobody ever taught you how to please your wife sexually.
Our culture failed you. Porn lied to you. And your sex ed was a joke.
But today, that changes.
I’m going to show you exactly why your wife doesn’t want sex anymore, the 3 massive mistakes you’re making, and introduce you to the framework that will transform your sex life completely. Forever.
This is the Sex Ed you should have gotten. From a woman who’s going to tell you the truth.
Don’t worry…I got you.
The Brutal Statistics Nobody Talks About
Let’s start with some facts that most “marriage experts” won’t tell you:
70% of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone.
Read that again.
That means: seven out of ten wives are either faking it or just…not finishing. (And are very, very frustrated.)
Here’s more:
- Women orgasm 81% of the time during oral sex but only 25% of the time during intercourse
- In one study, 82% of wives rated oral sex as “very satisfying” compared to only 68% for penetration
- The average husband spends 5-7 minutes on foreplay when his wife needs 15-20 minutes minimum
Translation: Most married women aren’t having orgasms. And if your wife doesn’t want sex anymore, this is probably why.
She’s not getting anything out of it.
Think about that for a second. Every time you have sex, you orgasm. You finish. You feel satisfied.
But her? She’s left unsatisfied, frustrated, and resentful.
And you wonder why your wife doesn’t want sex anymore?
Why Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex Anymore (The Real Reason)
Here’s the truth most men don’t want to hear:
Your wife doesn’t want sex because sex doesn’t work for her.
Not because she has a “low libido.” Not because she’s stressed or tired (though those don’t help).
She doesn’t want sex because you’re not making her orgasm.
And no matter how much you try, how hard you work, how long you last…you keep missing the mark.
Why?
Because you’re making 3 critical mistakes. And until you fix them, nothing will change.
Mistake #1: You’re Focused on the Wrong Body Part
Let me ask you something:
Where do you think her orgasm comes from?
If you said “vagina” or “G-spot,” you’re wrong. And that’s exactly why your wife doesn’t want sex anymore.
Her orgasm comes from the clitoris.
Not your dick. Not penetration. The clitoris.
Here’s What You Never Learned:
The clitoris has 8,000+ nerve endings…twice as many as your entire penis.
It’s the ONLY organ in the human body whose sole purpose is pleasure. Not reproduction. Just pleasure.
And when you’re thrusting away inside her, thinking you’re “hitting the right spot”? You’re missing the clitoris entirely.
The clitoris sits 2-3 centimeters ABOVE her vaginal opening. During penetration, your penis usually bypasses it completely.
That’s not a flaw. That’s her design.
The Anatomy Lesson You Never Got:
What you see externally (that little button) is just the clitoral head…the tip of the iceberg.
The full clitoral structure includes:
- The clitoral head (visible, super sensitive)
- The clitoral shaft (extends up toward the pubic bone)
- The clitoral legs (extend down on both sides of the vagina)
- The clitoral bulbs (internal, surrounding the vaginal canal)
This entire network needs stimulation for her to orgasm.
Penetration alone? It’s like trying to give yourself an orgasm by rubbing your thigh. Feels nice, maybe. But it’s not going to make you finish.
Same for her.
Solution Preview: Your mouth and hands are better tools for clitoral stimulation than your dick. We cover the “how-to” step-by-step in our paid newsletter and sex ed courses.
Mistake #2: You’re Pursuing Sex Instead of Pursuing Her
Here’s the second reason your wife doesn’t want sex anymore:
You’re chasing the act instead of seducing the woman.
Let me introduce you to The Mountain Map…my proprietary framework for understanding how women actually experience sex.
The Mountain Map: How Women Work
Most men think sex starts when clothes come off. Or when you start touching her between her legs.
Wrong.
Sex starts in her brain. Hours…sometimes days…before anything physical happens.
Think of her sexuality as climbing a mountain. There are 4 stages:
Stage 1: Base Camp (Mental/Emotional Arousal)
This is seduction. Pursuit. Making her feel desired, chosen, wanted.
This is texting her something flirty during the day. Complimenting her. Treating her like someone you want to ravish…not someone you share household chores with.
Most men skip this stage entirely.
Stage 2: The Ascent (Building Physical Arousal)
This is the slow burn. Sensual touch that builds to sexual touch. Kissing. Caressing. The anticipation that makes her crave more.
This is where oral sex happens. Where you spend 20 minutes (not 5) building her arousal to the point where she’s begging for more.
Stage 3: The Peak (Orgasm)
Her climax. Mutual ecstasy.
First for her. Then for you.
Not the other way around. Never the other way around.
Stage 4: The Descent (Aftercare)
Holding each other. Waves of pleasure rippling through your bodies. The intimate connection that happens after great sex.
This is when she feels closest to you. When the world feels peaceful. When sex was actually worth it for her. (And for you!)
The False Summit (Where You’re Stuck)
Here’s the problem: Most men jump straight from dinner to penetration.
You skip Base Camp (mental seduction). You rush through The Ascent (physical arousal). You think penetration IS the peak. And you climax. Just. You.
And you’re up on that mountain alone while your wife is still waiting at Base Camp to be pursued. And understood.
That’s why your wife doesn’t want sex anymore.
She’s not rejecting sex. She’s rejecting THIS version of sex…the one where she doesn’t orgasm, doesn’t feel desired, and doesn’t get anything out of it.
Solution Preview: Stop pursuing sex. Start pursuing HER. We’ll give you specific Base Camp tactics in this week’s paid newsletter.
Mistake #3: You’re Making Her Orgasm Optional (It’s Not)
Here’s the third mistake killing your sex life:
You’re treating her orgasm as a “nice to have” instead of the main event.
Be honest with yourself:
- Do you always make sure she finishes?
- Or do you finish first and then roll over?
- Or worse—do you assume she finished because she moaned a little?
Here’s the brutal truth: she’s probably faking it.
Studies show that up to 67% of women have faked an orgasm. Some women fake it every single time.
Why? Because it’s easier than:
- Hurting your ego
- Explaining (again) what she needs
- Dealing with your frustration
- Making sex take even longer when she’s exhausted
So she fakes it. You think you’re “good in bed.” And nothing changes.
Meanwhile, every time you have sex, you orgasm. She doesn’t.
You get pleasure. She gets frustration.
You feel satisfied. She feels resentful.
And most of all…in a world where “sex” is defined as a penis penetrating a vagina, and a male ejaculating…it is incredibly difficult for your wife to not feel shame, rejection and embarrassment that she can’t cum as easily as you do. Because we won’t say it out loud…we are left thinking about sex as something we do for our husbands not with our husbands.
And you wonder why your wife doesn’t want sex anymore?
The Rule That Changes Everything:
Her orgasm comes first. Every single time. Non-negotiable.
Not “when there’s time.” Not “if she’s in the mood.” Not “sometimes.”
Every. Time.
Why? Because once YOU orgasm, you’re done. Your arousal drops to zero. You want to roll over and sleep.
If she hasn’t finished yet? She’s left frustrated and angry.
Do this enough times, and she’ll stop wanting sex entirely.
Solution Preview: We’ll teach you exactly how to make her orgasm FIRST using oral sex in our paid newsletter and in the Oral Sex Mastery Course. Stay tuned!
Why This Matters More Than You Think
If your wife doesn’t want sex anymore, your marriage is in trouble.
Not because “sex is everything.” But because sex is a barometer for:
- Emotional connection
- Physical intimacy
- Trust and vulnerability
- Feeling desired and valued
When sex dies, resentment grows. Distance widens. Affairs happen. Divorce becomes inevitable.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
You can learn how to please your wife sexually. You can become the lover she fantasizes about instead of avoids. And you can become the man with the happiest wife on the block…having more sex (and better sex) than you ever though possible.
You just need the right education. The techniques nobody ever taught you.
The Mountain Map: Your Roadmap to Transformation
The 3 mistakes I just showed you? They’re symptoms of a bigger problem:
You’re trying to navigate her sexuality without a map.
That’s what The Mountain Map is for. It’s your guide from Base Camp (seduction) to The Peak (her orgasm, then yours) to The Descent (aftercare).
When you understand the Mountain Map, everything clicks:
- Why she needs 20 minutes (The Ascent takes time)
- Why oral sex matters more than penetration (clitoral stimulation)
- Why seduction starts hours before sex (Base Camp)
- Why her orgasm must come first (so she’s actually satisfied)
This framework will transform your sex life.
But understanding the framework is just the first step. You also need the techniques.
What Happens Next
Over the next month, I’m going to teach you:
In the FREE newsletters:
- The anatomy you never learned (where the clitoris actually is)
- Why she takes 20 minutes (and why that’s normal)
- How to seduce her emotionally (Base Camp tactics)
- The signs she’s faking it (and why…not to shame her or make you feel bad…but to learn what you might do differently)
- The complete satisfaction framework
In the PAID newsletters (upgrade for $19/month):
- Specific oral sex techniques (tongue positions, rhythm, pressure)
- The “come hither” finger motion for her G-spot
- Tongue + finger combinations that guarantee orgasms
- Advanced techniques (gum pressure, clitoral clasp)
- The 6-stage oral sex system overview
- Troubleshooting guides for common problems
- AMA series…anonymous Ask Me Anything Q&A from subscribers
In the Oral Sex Mastery Course ($197):
- Complete video demonstrations of all techniques
- Physical practice tool so you can master it before touching her
- The full 6-stage system in detail
- Private community support
- Wait List coming soon!
Tonight’s Action Step
Before you go, I want you to do ONE thing tonight:
Text your wife something flirty.
Not “what do you want for dinner?” Not “did you pick up the kids?”
Something that makes her feel DESIRED. Like:
- “Can’t stop thinking about you today”
- “You looked incredible this morning”
- “I want you tonight”
That’s Base Camp. That’s the beginning of the Mountain Map.
Start pursuing HER again. Not just sex.
Final Thoughts
Look, I know this was a lot.
Your sex life isn’t fulfilling. You’re making 3 critical mistakes. The clitoris is her key to orgasm, not your dick. She needs 15-20 minutes, not 5. Her orgasm has to come first.
This is overwhelming.
But here’s the truth: you can learn this. You can become the lover she craves instead of avoids. And become the lover you want to be.
You just need someone willing to teach you honestly. With no shame. No judgment. Just real, practical education.
That’s what The Bedroom Strategy is for.
And I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
Don’t worry…I got you.
