Free Oral Sex Technique Guide: The Complete Roadmap for Husbands
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You’re lying there between her legs, completely lost.
You have no idea if you’re doing it right. No idea if she’s actually enjoying it or just tolerating it. No idea how long you’re supposed to keep going.
You’re flying blind…hoping you accidentally stumble onto something that works.
And the worst part? You think it’s your fault that you don’t know this stuff.
It’s not.
Nobody ever taught you. Sex education showed you anatomy diagrams but never explained actual technique. Porn taught you aggressive moves that don’t work on real women. Your friends lie about their skills because admitting incompetence feels emasculating.
So you’ve been left to figure it out yourself, with zero guidance.
Here’s what I want you to understand: You can be a great lover. You just didn’t know the technique.
And that’s exactly why I created The Free Oral Sex Technique Guide & Roadmap…a free, downloadable guide that gives you what you’ve been desperately searching for:
The actual technique. The complete system. The roadmap from first touch to orgasm.
No more guessing. No more random licking. No more feeling like you’re failing her.
Let me show you what’s inside this guide, why it’s different from everything else you’ve read, and how it’s going to transform your confidence between the sheets.
WHY MOST ORAL SEX ADVICE IS COMPLETELY USELESS
Before I tell you what makes The Free Oral Sex Technique Guide Roadmap different, let me tell you why everything else you’ve read has failed you.
MOST ADVICE SAYS:
- “Just communicate with her”
- “Pay attention to her responses”
- “Be gentle and go slow”
- “Every woman is different”
HERE’S WHY THAT’S USELESS:
“Just communicate” – She won’t communicate specifics because she’s embarrassed, doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, or doesn’t even know what she needs herself.
“Pay attention to her responses” – Her responses are subtle and inconsistent. She moans the same whether it’s good or just okay. You can’t tell the difference between real pleasure and polite endurance.
“Be gentle and go slow” – How gentle? How slow? For how long? These vague instructions leave you more confused than before.
“Every woman is different” – While true, there are universal anatomical and arousal patterns that work for the vast majority of women. Saying “every woman is different” is an excuse to avoid teaching actual technique.
You don’t need more vague platitudes. You need a system.
You need specific instructions: What to do at minute 3 vs. minute 15. What tongue position to use. How to read her body signals. When to add fingers. What mistakes kill her orgasm.
That’s what The Free Oral Sex Technique Guide & Roadmap gives you.
WHAT’S INSIDE THE FREE ORAL SEX TECHNIQUE GUIDE
This isn’t some generic PDF with “tips and tricks.” This is a complete visual roadmap you can reference before, during, and after.
Here’s exactly what you get:
THE ANATOMY MAP
- Clear, labeled diagram of her external anatomy
- Where the clitoris actually is (and the hidden structures you can’t see)
- What you’re stimulating at each stage
THE 20-MINUTE TIMELINE
A minute-by-minute breakdown of the entire progression from 0 to orgasm:
- 0-1 min: First Kiss (what you’re doing, what her body’s response is)
- 1-5 min: Rhythm (the specific pattern that works)
- 5-10 min: Tension (when to add fingers, what strokes to use)
- 10-15 min: Escalation (the gum pressure technique explained)
- 15-20 min: Pre-Orgasm (DO NOT CHANGE – why consistency matters)
- 20+ min: Orgasm (how to maintain through it)
THE TECHNIQUE FORMULA
- Tongue Rules: FLAT position (not pointed), 60 BPM rhythm (use a metronome!), find her pattern and DON’T CHANGE IT, pressure progression from light to medium
- Hand Positions: Where your dominant hand goes (the come-hither motion), what your support hand does (the anchor position)
- The Golden Rules: The 5 non-negotiables that create orgasms
HER SIGNALS DECODED
- Good Signs: Hips moving toward you, grabbing hair/sheets, moaning/heavy breathing, “don’t stop,” thighs tensing, back arching
- Warning Signs: Hips pulling away, pushing your head away, going silent/tense, “it’s okay come up,” legs closing, body going limp
THE MISTAKES THAT KILL HER ORGASM
The 6 deadly mistakes that destroy arousal:
- ✗ Changing rhythm when she’s close (THE #1 KILLER)
- ✗ Giving up at 5-10 minutes (she needs 20)
- ✗ Going too hard on the clitoris (it’s sensitive!)
- ✗ Speeding up when excited (keep consistent rhythm)
- ✗ Skipping mental arousal (Base Camp matters)
- ✗ Using porn techniques (everything you learned is wrong)
QUICK REFERENCE TECHNIQUES
- The Come-Hither Motion (exactly how to do it)
- Gum Pressure (what it is and why it works)
- The Clitoral Hood Pull (indirect stimulation)
- The Anchor (how to keep her positioned)
- The Build (the specific pattern: 5 partial licks + 1 full stroke)
YOUR ACTION PLAN
- Before: What to do hours earlier to build mental arousal
- During: The specific progression through stages
- After: Why “The Descent” matters (don’t stop abruptly)
THE BOTTOM LINE
Four truths that will change how you think about oral sex:
- You CAN be a great lover (you just didn’t know the technique)
- 20 minutes is NORMAL (your jaw will adapt)
- Her orgasm comes FIRST (then penetration)
- This is a LEARNABLE SKILL (practice = mastery)
WHY THIS ROADMAP IS DIFFERENT (AND WHY IT ACTUALLY WORKS)
Let me tell you why The Free Oral Sex Technique Guide & Roadmap is different from every other “oral sex tips” article you’ve read:
1. IT’S VISUAL
You can print it out and reference it. You can glance at the timeline before you go to bed. You can review the anatomy map to make sure you’re focusing on the right spot. This isn’t just text…it’s a literal roadmap you can follow.
2. IT’S SPECIFIC
Not “use your tongue.” But “FLAT tongue position like licking ice cream, 60 BPM rhythm, find what works then DON’T CHANGE IT.”
Not “read her body.” But “hips moving toward you = good, hips pulling away = warning.”
Specific instructions you can actually execute.
3. IT’S HONEST ABOUT TIMING
Most advice pretends you can make her orgasm in 5-10 minutes. This roadmap tells you the truth: She needs 20 minutes minimum. And your jaw will get tired. And that’s NORMAL.
But it also gives you solutions: The flat tongue uses less jaw muscle. Proper positioning reduces neck strain. Building stamina through practice makes 20 minutes manageable.
4. IT INCLUDES THE MISTAKES
Most advice tells you what TO do. This roadmap also tells you what NOT to do…and explains WHY those mistakes kill her orgasm.
Changing rhythm when she’s close? Orgasm killer.
Giving up at 10 minutes? She was only halfway there.
Going too hard? You’re hurting her.
Understanding the mistakes is just as important as learning the technique.
5. IT ADDRESSES YOUR PAIN POINTS
This roadmap was created based on feedback from hundreds of men who feel:
- Lost and incompetent during oral sex
- Frustrated that she won’t tell them what works
- Anxious about how long it’s taking
- Confused by her subtle (or fake) responses
- Embarrassed to admit they don’t know what they’re doing
Every section of this roadmap addresses those exact frustrations.
THE TRUTH MOST PEOPLE WON’T TELL YOU
Here’s what I believe that most sex educators won’t say out loud:
Men are not naturally good at oral sex.
You’re not supposed to instinctively know this. Female anatomy is complex. Female arousal is different from male arousal. What works for you (speed, pressure, quick stimulation) doesn’t work for her.
And society has completely failed you by:
- Not teaching actual technique in sex education
- Letting porn be your teacher (which taught you all the wrong things)
- Making you feel ashamed for needing instruction
- Telling women to “just communicate” when they don’t know how
So you’ve been stumbling around in the dark for years, hoping you accidentally get it right.
That’s not your fault.
But here’s what IS within your control: Learning the actual technique.
This is a learnable skill. Just like any other skill, it requires:
- Proper instruction (which you’ve never received)
- Understanding the system (which this roadmap provides)
- Practice (which builds muscle memory and stamina)
- Feedback (which you’ll get from her body’s responses once you know what to look for)
You wouldn’t expect to play piano without lessons. You wouldn’t expect to speak French without studying. You wouldn’t expect to code without training.
So why do we expect men to be good at oral sex without any education?
The Free Oral Sex Technique Guide & Roadmap is the education you should have gotten 20 years ago.
WHO THIS ROADMAP IS FOR (AND WHO IT’S NOT FOR)
THIS ROADMAP IS FOR YOU IF:
- You feel lost and incompetent during oral sex
- You have no idea if you’re doing it right
- Your wife never or rarely orgasms from oral sex
- You don’t know how long oral sex is supposed to last
- You’re using random techniques hoping something works
- You want specific, actionable instructions
- You’re willing to practice and build skills
- You want to become a confident, competent lover
THIS Guide & ROADMAP IS NOT FOR YOU IF:
- You already consistently give her orgasms from oral sex
- You believe “every woman is different” means technique doesn’t matter
- You’re not willing to spend 20 minutes
- You think communication alone is the answer
- You want quick tricks instead of mastering the fundamentals
If you’re in the first category…frustrated, lost, and desperate for real education…this roadmap is for you.
WHAT MEN ARE SAYING ABOUT THE ROADMAP
“I’ve been married 12 years and never made my wife orgasm from oral sex. I followed this roadmap exactly, especially the ‘don’t change rhythm’ rule. And she came for the first time ever. I actually teared up. Thank you.” – James M.
“The 20-minute timeline changed everything. I was quitting at 8-10 minutes thinking that was enough time. Now I understand why she never came. I was stopping halfway through. This roadmap gave me the confidence to keep going.” – David R.
“The anatomy map alone was worth it. I genuinely didn’t know where the clitoris was. Embarrassing to admit, but true. Now I know exactly where to focus, and my wife is responding completely differently.” – Marcus T.
“The ‘mistakes that kill her orgasm’ section hit me hard. I was making ALL six mistakes. Especially changing rhythm when she started moaning. I thought I should do MORE, but the roadmap taught me to lock in what’s working. Game changer.” – Kevin L.
“I printed this out and reviewed it before bed. Having the visual reference removed all my anxiety. I knew exactly what to do at each stage. My wife asked me ‘where did you learn that?’ Feels good to finally be competent.” – Andrew S.
YOUR NEXT STEP: DOWNLOAD THE FREE ROADMAP
You have two choices:
Choice 1: Keep doing what you’re doing
- Flying blind during oral sex
- Hoping you accidentally do something right
- Feeling frustrated and incompetent
- Watching her fake orgasms or give up
- Never knowing if you’re actually good at this
Choice 2: Download the roadmap and learn the system
- Know exactly what to do at each minute
- Understand the anatomy you’re working with
- Follow the proven technique formula
- Recognize her body signals
- Avoid the mistakes that kill orgasms
- Build confidence through competence
The roadmap is completely free. No credit card. No complicated signup. Just enter your email and I’ll send you the PDF immediately.
You can print it out. Save it to your phone. Reference it whenever you need it.
This is the instruction manual you should have gotten decades ago.
[DOWNLOAD THE FREE ORAL SEX TECHNIQUE GUIDE AND ROADMAP]
Stop flying blind. Start following the roadmap.
WHY I CREATED THIS (AND WHY IT’S FREE)
I’m Mel, a female intimacy coach and the founder of The Bedroom Strategy.
I created this roadmap because I was once a “cold wife” who destroyed her own marriage because I couldn’t articulate what I needed sexually.
My ex-husband was a good man who genuinely wanted to please me. But he didn’t know HOW. And I didn’t know how to explain it. So we suffered in silence until our marriage fell apart.
I don’t want that for you.
I don’t want your wife lying there tolerating mediocre oral sex, unable to tell you what she actually needs.
And I don’t want you feeling incompetent and rejected, not knowing that you can actually learn this skill.
This roadmap is free because every husband deserves access to real education. Not vague platitudes. Not “just communicate.” But actual technique that works.
If this roadmap helps you give your wife her first real orgasm from oral sex, it will have been worth it.
And if you want to go deeper…to master not just the technique, but the stamina, the practice system, and the complete bedroom strategy…I have a full library on Substack which includes:
- Anatomically correct training aid for private practice
- Video demonstrations of every technique
- Daily practice drills to build jaw stamina
- The complete 6-stage progression system
- Private community for questions
But start with the free roadmap. Download it. Study it. Try it.
And let me know how it goes.
THE BOTTOM LINE
You’re not bad at oral sex. You just never had the roadmap.
20 minutes is normal. Your jaw will adapt. Her orgasm comes first. This is a learnable skill.
Download the free guide. Stop guessing. Start mastering.
[DOWNLOAD THE FREE ORAL SEX TECHNIQUE GUIDE & ROADMAP]
Stop Pursuing Sex. Start Pursuing Her.
P.S. After you download the roadmap, check your email for a welcome series that walks you through how to use it effectively. I’ll also send you my best articles on oral sex technique, timing, and troubleshooting…all free.
P.P.S. If you have questions about anything in the roadmap, just hit reply to any of my emails. I read and respond to every single one.
About the Author:
I’m Mel, founder of The Bedroom Strategy and a certified intimacy coach. As a woman who was once a “cold wife,” I understand both sides of the frustration. I created this roadmap to give men the education they should have received decades ago. No shame. No vague advice. Just proven technique that actually works.
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